Fatherhood Bootcamp

"Behind every young child who believes in themself is a parent who believed first" Zig Ziglar"

Having been raised by a single mother, because my father chose to abdicate his throne of responsibility when I was 2 years of age, I vowed to myself that I would always be there for my children. His Absence petrified me for many years as I struggled to understand why I didn't have a father. Every child needs their father or a father figure and due to my unpleasant experience of growing up with an absent father, I have a very strong bond, a fun and healthy relationship with my son, He calls me his best-friend.

If you grew up without a father I want you to know that it is not your fault, He made the choice to abdicate, and if you are an absent father know this, the decision and choice you have made is affecting your offspring badly more than you realize, make a choice to be there for them and avail your time and affection as much as you avail your money if any.

Amongst other roles of a father is to provide leadership, guidance and direction, I am reminded of a friend of mine once asked me for some fatherly advice. He wanted to know if it is right to choose a carrier for someone?

Actually it's about his son, He would love him to be a medical doctor. I thus asked him why he wanted his son to be a medical doctor? To which he selfishly responded, I just want someone to have that profession in my family. What he meant was to hell with and screw what my son desires for himself. As his good friend I quickly chastised him.

A number of parents deny their children the inalienable right of making choices. Instead of guiding them, they indulge in the injurious habit of imposing their aspirations on their offspring. As parents especially fathers our role is to guide and not to impose on our children.